So, I haven’t mentioned this on the blog before because I didn’t want it to seem like the blog was a personal life journal … I am getting married on March 22, in just 11 days. While I am so thrilled to be taking the next step in creating a life with Lucy, who is the most wonderful, beautiful and hilarious woman I know, I am also really sad that I can’t share the experience with a lot of my closest friends.
Why is that? Because the US, in its ongoing obsession with controlling gay people’s lives, refuses to acknowledge gay marriage. Were we get to get married in my home state of California, it wouldn’t “count.” It wouldn’t be recognized internationally, and it wouldn’t be recognized for immigration either in Canada or the US.
My friends aren’t rich and plane tickets to Toronto are expensive. So, three of my closest friends in the whole world will be missing my wedding next week. In recognition of this, I’d like to thank the religious right and all of the homophobes out there for bringing a little more sadness into the world. I’m sure Christ is really fucking proud of you and your obsession with what goes on in my bedroom.
I’m sorry my best friends won’t be there. I can only be thankful that I’ve met some wonderful people here, that one of my close friends lives within driving distance, that I have a supportive family and an amazing soon-to-be-wife.
In other news, I am thinking of switching to WordPress. Anyone care to comment?
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Hugs! It is not equal/fair at ALL and I admire “out” gay people somethin’ extra for the sacrifices they have to make in order to live true to themselves and what they want. I hope that someday it will be different–that various sexual choices won’t always be tied to moral indignation–and in the meantime I wish you the happiest wedding next weekend =). P.S. Kudos to your family for being supportive.
This situation is one of the greatest travesties of our time. It’s hard to be optimistic for the future sometimes when such a substantial number of people refuse to be dragged, kicking and screaming, out of the 17th century. More importantly, it’s bullshit that you can’t have close friends joining you for your ceremony of commitment and love for one another because of inane and insane reactionaries.
As for switching to Wordpress, I highly recommend it. Now I’ve switched from Blogger to Wordpress, I won’t go back. You really need to host it on your own domain to get the most out of it–there are some pretty annoying limitations on the wordpress.com accounts.
Big hugs! Great to hear you getting married, but really sorry to hear that your best friends can’t come
Congratulations on the wedding! I had no idea you had a date coming up soon.
Do you think you would have had the wedding in the US if marriage was available to all, here? In any case, I’m totally with you, and it’s one of the things that makes me think twice about getting married as a straight person. – Adam
Haha, I think that I still have mixed feelings about getting married. I think I don’t care about the actual ceremony, although I am looking forward to breaking the glass. I am also looking forward to having a big party celebrating our relationship, I guess.
Hahaha, now that I write this I am wondering, “why am I getting married?” Uh oh, hehehehe.
I think I am just feeling like shit because my dress just cost me … AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Hi Chanda,
All the best wishes to you and Lucy, I hope you have a wonderful wedding and find being married as pleasant as I do.
As to switching to wordpress, as Paul mentioned above, the wordpress.com accounts have some annoying limitations (you will have to ‘upgrade’ for money to get around them), just try it out (I did and decided to stay with blogger). I have been planning since a while to download and run the software which I find very much preferable to blogger, but I haven’t quite come around to doing it.
Best,
B.
Hey Chanda,
Congratulations on your wedding (sorry for the lateness) and best wishes.
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